Do you spend leisure hours reading or watching television? Do you prefer playing chess or some game on your Sony playstation? If your answer to both questions is the latter, then there might come a day when you won’t even remember what a television is.

There are approximately more than 30 million people suffering from Alzheimer’s disease worldwide. In America alone, the number of people diagnosed with the disease has reached 5.6 million.

What is Alzheimer’s disease and why is it such a great concern for us? Alzheimer’s disease is a form of dementia. People suffering from it exhibit permanent memory loss, irritability, confusion, breakdown of language, and withdrawal. The disease is degenerative and usually affects people aged 65 and above. Though risk for the disease increases with age, not all old people develop Alzheimer’s disease. Its causes still baffle scientists. 

Scientists have not yet found the cure for Alzheimer’s as well. Several independent studies, however, show that people who regularly stimulate their brains in their young age are least likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease than those who don’t.

Think of your brain as your leg muscles. To keep it in shape, you have to exercise it. Notice how soft and shapeless the legs of people strapped to wheelchairs compared to soccer players. According to studies, the brain grows in a mentally nourishing environment, and diminishes in size in an impoverished environment. In other words, its size, function, and capacity changes in response to external environs.

Mental workouts are the best way to keep the brain fit. If you don’t want to suffer the dreaded Alzheimer’s disease when you turn 65 or so, never stop engaging yourself in mind-stimulating activities. Read the news each morning, and then do crossword puzzle. Beat your kid at chess. Learn new French words.

Engaging in learning activities is the key to keeping one’s mind in shape. Watching television does not qualify as a thinking activity. Also alarming is the many computer-based games we are exposed to today; they are intended to provide entertainment and nothing else. At best, they are good for exercising motor and visual coordination. When I think of those kids wasting their time on mindless computer games, it gives me a shudder. Are we up for a mindless society or a society of demented people?

Neuroscientists do not think so. They work at the forefront of neuroscience developing ways to combat Alzheimer’s disease. They have created a number of preventive solutions including memory stimulating/ assistance software. Memory stimulating/assistance software provides scientifically designed mental workouts and brain testing exercises to keep your mind active and stimulated.  

Your choice of activities today can have a great impact on your mental health as you age. So do yourself a favor. Choose activities that keep your mind in shape. But learning does not have to be boring. Brain testing activities keep your mind active without depriving you of fun. The few hours that you spend each day doing these exercises will delay several years of mental aging. When you turn 80, don’t you want to be able to name all your grandchildren and share with them stories about your childhood?

For most of us, our senior citizen years are a time to relax, maybe pursue a hobby, travel or just relax and let life go by.  But, for many, retirement isn’t just a time to lay the goals of life down.  It is a time to look back over life at the unfinished challenges and then go back and finish them.  And for many, an unfinished goal in life is to go back and get that degree.  Whether it is finally graduating from high school, finishing your bachelor’s degree or starting and finishing a masters or PHD, it’s a big challenge to go back to the classroom and get that certificate, especially when you do that as a senior citizen.

So why do we do it?  This may be a question your children ask when they see you going after such an ambitious goal so late in life.  But when you think about it, we as senior citizens have a right to be a bit offended by the question.  Where is it written that we are denied the right to better ourselves just because we are in the later years of life?  Implicit in the question is the implication of, “What is the point of you getting a degree since you are not going to do anyting productive in retirement and you are so close to death?”

The last thing we as senior citizens want is to be seen as people who are just sitting around waiting to die.  Many a senior citizen has started an entirely new career and accomplished great things after 50.  With the advances in medical science today, it’s perfectly logical that you could live 20-30 years or more “in retirement”.  That is plenty of time to accomplish great things.  And starting out this era of life with a good education makes just as much sense as a youth doing so as they start out on their first career. 

This is not to say that going back to school is going to be easy.  If finishing your high school degree is the goal, you are going into an alien world and one that was probably pretty hostile the first time you were there.  Your presence in the high school or college classroom is going to be the source of some humor and you might take some teasing for being there.  But those same kids will come to admire what you are doing and enjoy having “grandpa” in class with them each day.

On top of the social situation you may create in a high school or college classroom, school is a challenge.  You will have to get used to being in the classroom and listening to lectures, reading textbooks, taking notes, doing papers and taking exams all over again.  If you go after an advanced degree and take several classes, you will be a very busy senior citizen just keeping up with your studies.

But there are some joys you can expect from going after an advanced degree.  College life and being on a college campus each day is by itself a very stimulating environment.  And you may find yourself at a few pep rallies and enjoying campus life just like the other students.  Being with young people each day can be energizing and you may find yourself looking and acting as much like the youth you “hang out with” as you do your fellow senior citizens.

But the greatest benefit of getting that advanced degree is the pride or accomplishment you will get.  If you are finishing your high school or bachelor’s degree, it no doubt nagged you all your life that this was something that you started and didn’t finish.  So by going back and finishing it, you close that door and take away the power of that nagging voice. 

Don’t be surprised if you fall in love with academic life.  Learning is tremendously addictive and you may wish to go on for yet more studies in fields of learning that have always fascinated you.  Nobody will turn away your tuition dollars if you just want to be in college for the pure joy of learning.  And you will be an inspiration to your fellow students when they see you succeed and they tell themselves, “If Grandpa over there can do it, so can I.”

When a senior citizen finds a new romantic companion late in life, it’s a wonderful moment for both.  Romances late in life can provide a much needed source of companionship and love that may be missing if the senior has lost a spouse or is going through their golden years alone.  But it’s common for children of seniors to go through some anxiety when they see dad or mom enjoying the company of another romance in their lives.  And getting the kids to accept your new girlfriend or boyfriend, especially if that romance is going to result in a wedding.

Part of your children’s resistance to you dating comes from anxiety about losing their parent which may be just as deep and lasting a grief as you had in losing your wife or husband.  It may seem strange but often it is the children of the marriage who go through the longest grief when a parent passes on.  You may have already moved along in your processing of that loss much more than they.  To children, the parents are a permanent institution and the idea that one of them would go away seems inconceivable.  And this feeling often survives well into adulthood.

So that is the first big adjustment your family ahs to make when they see you beginning to enjoy the company of the opposite sex.  They must be assured you are not going to replace mom or dad in their hearts and that this romance will never remove the love you cherish for that departed spouse.  To the children, that love must endure forever because it is the foundation of their concept of family which is a big part of their own identity as well, even though one parent may have passed away.

This is a next step in life that calls for you, the senior citizen and the wise old Grandma or Grandpa in the family mix to use some of that sensitivity and wisdom of your years to help your children and even grandchildren accept your new romance and evolve with you to a new phase of life.  If you have the chance as you begin a new relationship, the time to begin the acceptance process is before that friendship becomes a romance.

By sitting down with your children and discussing that this will happen, even before it happens, you begin the acceptance process.  In their minds and emotional systems, they begin to understand your need for companionship and for love and for romance.  You need that as much as they do.  So you explain it to them.

Then as you begin to see a romantic interest, be open with the family about what you are doing.  Adult children can even get to the point that they will be your advisor and your cheerleaders as you enjoy a new era of dating and romance.  Once that area of life is open, then when you do “bring home the date to meet the family” it wont be such a difficult thing. 

But by keeping the adult children always in the loop, they can talk with one another, agree that this is the best possible thing for you and even work to help the grandkids accept your new romance.  Before long, he or she will be able to come for dinner, join in the holidays and really become part of the family.  Just as you opened your heart when your kids were dating and finding new loves, you will teach your kids to open their hearts to someone who is becoming important to you.  It’s a cycle of life but if we handling it lovingly and honestly, it’s a good cycle.